There are simply many types of divorces as there are types of families, and each family unit creates their own little escape in which the spilt is rolled out. For some families, divorce stems from the partners not being able to get along, solve problems or communicate effectively . In some families, divorce is a way to get out of an abusive or angry partnership, in which case those children ultimately benefit emotionally, even though they will still face fears and even feel disloyal toward the offending parents. For almost 20 years, Bert Tassoni has been a Parenting therapist in Melbourne Victoria, working with hundreds of parents of divorced children. Tassoni's passion is his work and his work is helping parents and their children survive this life changing ordeal . Over those 20 years, Bert Tassoni learnt exactly what works and what doesn't work when working with parents with children from separated families. When kids get nervous about the future, they have an subdued mechanism that tells them their parents will look after whatever it is that's bothering them. "Fear" is often the core feeling they have: Fear that they're going to lose things they love, and fear that they're not going to have things they want. What you'll see in some cases is that one child will buckle down and do OK in school, and the other child will quit and stop working. What that means is that one child is coping with his fear and insecurity through isolation, while the other child is forging ahead on external things like studies and sport activities. Often children deal with their fear and anger by playing their emotions out and striking out at others. Bert Tassoni Parenting Counselor Melbourne Australia
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